Wednesday, July 8, 2015

40 Day Challenge: Day 6 Update

Day 6: Never underestimate the power of your mind to do what it has been used to doing ..

How many of us have experienced this at some level?

Mind: Let's watch this serial for five more minutes and then I will do what I want to do
You: but you know I have to finish my work
Mind: Its ok, just for five minutes.
You: Ok..lets watch this for five more minutes.

And before you know two hours go by and you have not even started your work.

Another example of this is when we hear the alarm in the morning, our Mind negotiate for five more minutes of sleep with us and before we know two hours have again passed...

This is the most common habit in almost all of us called Procastination..and I amongst all have been guilty of doing it again and again for so many times that I cannot count it now ...

Yesterday, my mind negotiated with me for watching the Wimbledon quarterfinal between Stan Wawrinka and Richard Gasquet for five more minutes and before I knew, two hours had passed...inspite of the fact that I knew it was not worth my time to watch the match.

One of the biggest weakness in any human being is to procrastinate and prioritise lesser important stuff over more important ones and that's why we see so many people undermining their own power or potential ..

The way to overcome such habit based on my observation is to first be aware of this weakness, then acknowledge it and then work upon it. I have always been aware of it and today I am taking the second step where I am acknowledging that this might be the biggest obstacle that I might have..the third step comes later on..

It's the fourth time where I have not gone to do what I wanted in the past six days and it has been incredibly insightful to observe what has been happening...today while writing this, I just realised how it must have felt for people who failed again and again in their goals.

Here are three examples:

1) Imagine the embarrassment of Novak Djokovic who was routinely defeated for 3 years by Federer and Djokovic before 2011 happened and demolished all those failures in a whiff.

2) Imagine the embarrassment of Steve Jobs who was ousted from his own company for not being able to lead it before Pixar happened and maybe the same is the case with Rahul Yadav..

3) Imagine the embarrassment of Stan Wawrinka who for ten years of his career was thrashed again and again by the Big 4 of tennis before Australian Open happened in 2014..Can we imagine what would he have felt like every time he stepped on the court and people said oh he is going to lose, what's the big deal?

Now I can give many such examples but the point that I want to make is its embarrassment from our perspective but was these failures an embarrassment for them?

No, it was an opportunity for them to realise that there is a scope of improvement in them and to do bigger and better things by continuing to try again and again...

If they would have given up, they would have not reached where they are...
I know my case is at a very very small level than these people but still a failure is a failure irrespective of the magnitude...

The same is with me and I am not embarrassed or dejected to say that it's the fourth time in last six days I have failed but an opportunity for me to acknowledge that yes i did fail but I will keep on trying and improving on my weaknesses...On to the next day!!!!

40 Day Challenge: Day 5 update

Day 5: Finally after 3 days of
Trial and Error, woke up at 5 AM without any inhibitions or drudgery...

I heard a beautiful story today:
There was a frog in a pond and he meets a fish who had just
Come from ocean..here is the conversation between them:
Fish: You know have you ever heard of ocean..it is vast and huge...
Frog: oh, is it as big as this pond.
Fish: No
Frog: Then it must be big till that well we can see..
Fish: No
Frog: Oh then it must be as big as the end of that wall I am able to see
Fish: No, it's even lot bigger than where you can see..
Frog starts laughing and says that fish you are liar and goes away...

I found this story very beautiful as so many times we laugh off the new ideas that we come across In our lives , since our limited thinking is not able to comprehend the possibility of such a thing...
Our thinking is made up by our exposure and our open mindedness...expand your thinking and see that there is a tiny possibility that we might be missing on the bigger picture in our lives...

How does this stay fit to my current situation: Lot of people have come and told me that why wake up at 5 Am, what's the use...
Here is my answer: until and unless I try, how will I know what is the use and why everyone from our moms ( who I feel are these tireless human beings who never once says I am tired inspite of managing the entire family) or the big hot shots or managers of the companies keep on raving about waking up early...

Until you try, you won't know how big the ocean might be..

Monday, July 6, 2015

40 Day Challenge: Day 4 Update

For people who are coming here for the first time, here is a little background:

For the next 40 days ( as that's the time people say it takes you to form a habit), I am committing to write my daily journal on Facebook as well as my blog ( 12 noon IST) about my trials and hardship of waking up at 5 AM...this will help me test two theories at a time: why do people swear by waking up early and how can Facebook/Blog be really an influential tool to achieve your goals... ( You can read more here: http://healthnsports4u.blogspot.in/2015/07/a-social-experiment-to-waking-up-early.html )


Day 4 : Woke up at 7 AM after sleeping at 2 PM ( which was a conscious decision in the end) as I spent the night watching Roger Federer and Novak Djokovic's fourth round match at Wimbledon...

Although I was determined today to wake up at 5 AM via alarm ( thanks to my post yesterday about Modi and his example) but alas I found out in the morning that the ringer was off and alarm didn't go off..

Anyway, the reason why I watched those matches was:



Roger Federer: You look at him playing with so much ease and you realise that age is no issue for people like him. Unlike Nadal who seems to be getting bogged down with age, Federer is a class act and makes you realise that why do people say age is just a number and if you do what you love, you will never fade!!!! Something which all of us can take a cue from maybe..

Novak Djokovic and Kevin Anderson: If you are playing a champion player with apparently no weakness at all in his game, you have got to come out fearless and believe in your shots. That's how Kevin Anderson started his play to win first two sets. But then champions are built of steel , and that's what Djokovic showed by elevating his game and not getting bogged down by the circumstances to win the next two sets. Two important lesson was on display yesterday , if you want to shine in life, be fearless and believe in yourself. The second most important one which got me thinking is "Isn't there a champion in all of us waiting to be unleashed and revealed?"...No matter which circumstances you are in currently, take a cue from Djokovic and see that nothing and nothing ever should bog you down in your life..and that's why I love sports for there is so much I can learn from it..

Rise above the mediocrity and show the world the inner will power that each of us have within us!!!

And so from This lesson, I say so what if I have not been able to meet my challenge since the past three days, I will use this inner will to rise above and restart my clock and challenge till I succeed����...

A night well spent indeed!!!!

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40 Day Challenge: Day 3 Update

For people who are coming here for the first time, here is a little background:

For the next 40 days ( as that's the time people say it takes you to form a habit), I am committing to write my daily journal on Facebook as well as my blog ( 12 noon IST) about my trials and hardship of waking up at 5 AM...this will help me test two theories at a time: why do people swear by waking up early and how can Facebook/Blog be really an influential tool to achieve your goals... ( You can read more here: http://healthnsports4u.blogspot.in/2015/07/a-social-experiment-to-waking-up-early.html )


Day 3: Was all set to wake up at 5 Am with everything done by 11 PM...until I switched on the light and my sleep was interrupted by seeing a couple of Lizards or chipkali (in hindi) on the wall...

When you have been in an environment for five years where you have almost forgotten their existence and all of a sudden in night you see them in your room..it really gives you a little jolt..so the next two hours were spent studying ways to get them out of your house ...which unfortunately I couldn't find but yes I do know now the complete history as well as their astrological significance in Indian mythology ..:)...and also the reason why they are called "Chip" kali...

But having said that,  it was two o clock when I went to sleep...and yes I couldn't  get up at 5 o clock today inspite of my setting the alarm ...

This not getting up gave me an interesting insight into something I came across few months back...it was about the daily routine of Narendra Modi and how he wakes up at 5 o clock irrespective of the time he sleeps...be it 1 or 3 o clock or 11 o clock.. When you read such things, you feel what's the big deal until and unless you get a chance to apply it yourself...it's just like watching tennis ..which looks so easy from outside unless you step on the court with racquet in your hand for the first time and your shot goes outside the court during the first hit...

For this to happen to follow a early morning schedule irrespective of the hurdles, a person really needs to have a vision, be disciplined and inspired...(No way I am suggesting that one should compromise on sleep as sleeping for 7-8 hours is essential for everyone..it is just that our bodies and mind have become accustomed to sleeping late after 12 pm and waking up late, and Even the next day the same saga continues..in nutshell the point is although we do sleep only 7-8 hours..the productivity really goes downhill)

The Daily Counter says out of 3 days, my score is 1 till now.

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Sunday, July 5, 2015

40 Day Challenge: Day 2 Update

For people who are coming here for the first time, here is a little background:

For the next 40 days ( as that's the time people say it takes you to form a habit), I am committing to write my daily journal on Facebook as well as my blog ( 12 noon IST) about my trials and hardship of waking up at 5 AM...this will help me test two theories at a time: why do people swear by waking up early and how can Facebook/Blog be really an influential tool to achieve your goals... ( You can read more here: http://healthnsports4u.blogspot.in/2015/07/a-social-experiment-to-waking-up-early.html )

Day 2: Woke up at 5 AM today only to give in to the laziness of my mind and went back to sleep At 6 AM...

Just made me realise how fickle our minds can be ..it made me believe that sleep is very important and precious, so we should not compromise on sleep...only when I woke up at 8 Am, it made me regret my decision..so first it makes you run after things which you think will give you pleasure and happiness, only to come back and make you regret later ....

Isn't this true for each and every addiction that we might have in our lives??

Come on it's time to fight back and be the driver of our minds rather than vice versa....

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40 Day Challenge: Day 1 Update

For people who are coming here for the first time, here is a little background:
For the next 40 days ( as that's the time people say it takes you to form a habit), I am committing to write my daily journal on Facebook as well as my blog ( 12 noon IST) about my trials and hardship of waking up at 5 AM...this will help me test two theories at a time: why do people swear by waking up early and how can Facebook/Blog be really an influential tool to achieve your goals... ( You can read more here: http://healthnsports4u.blogspot.in/2015/07/a-social-experiment-to-waking-up-early.html )

Day-1 Update: 5 AM goal successfully achieved ..

It was easy today for me to wake up as it was the first day and I had made myself accountable yesterday by announcing my 40 day challenge ..

But that is not what was the highlight of the day for me. What stood out was a chance encounter of two minutes with someone during my morning walk..Here is a little part of our two minutes conversation:


Uncle: My son has also done MBA from IIM A and is now working outside.

Me: that's great..

Uncle: yes it has been really tough, I do three jobs a day. My older son is a pilot, second son has done MBA and third one is studying. I wake up at 3:30 Am in the morning, start my first job ( milk delivery) from 4-7, then do my second job from 9-4 ( mess in charge) then sleep for couple of hours and start my third job from 7-11. 

This ways I am happY that my kids have studied and fees ka kharcha nikal Gaya!!!

Me: speechless ...

Uncle: ok beta, take care and come to the mess for eating sometime with your family, you get unlimited dosas on Sunday!!

I was still speechless but managed to say thanks and wished him a good day..

And I thought getting up at 5 AM is tough ..Duh!!

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Friday, July 3, 2015

A social experiment of 40 days to waking up early and join the 5 AM club..

Disclaimer: This post will be long and please read it at your own discretion:)

So we have time again and again read about the reasons of waking up early...To be very honest, I have tried again and again in the past few months to do that but failed pathetically in my efforts..after all sleep is the most precious thing in life :):)..

I have also heard about the demerits of Facebook and how it kills your productivity..but at the same time, there are people who swear by the usefulness of Facebook and how it has helped them achieve their goals.

In life, the fun begins when you shake the things up and do something which you think to be impossible..that's how we grow..otherwise life becomes mundane and boring ..so I have decided to do that myself ..

So I am going to see how does waking up at 5 am in the morning feels like and why people who do that sing songs of praises about this habit ...yes coming from the person who can't sacrifice her sleep at any cost!!!

For the next 40 days ( as that's the time people say it takes you to form a habit), I am committing to write my daily journal on Facebook as well as my blog about my trials and hardship of waking up so early...this will help me test two theories at a time: why do people swear by waking up early and how can Facebook be really an influential tool to achieve your goals...

I have always believed if one person can do it, so can you!! So let's see if I can prove this theory correct ..

Let the fun/ challenge begin from tomorrow...

If you have read the entire post, thank you and I do hope you will enjoy the ride ( if you want, you can join the challenge too :):)), and if you are really bored, please feel free to close the tab or unfollow me as the next 40 days might be a bit too much for you!!!!

Sunday, July 6, 2014

Thank You Roger Federer! You lost but still won our hearts...



I know the heart must be broken for all Roger Federer fans, as we all probably know what Wimbledon final meant for the great champion!

But then they say that results in the end doesn't matter. Yes it was the opportunity missed for Roger Federer to extend his tally to 18 GS and defy all the critics. But then in the end, do we even know what we got a chance to witness today?

Take a moment and think about it?

We got a chance to witness the will and desire of a player whose passion for tennis is immeasurable and probably the highest I have ever seen in anyone.

We got a chance to witness the game of a player who probably will go down in the history of tennis as the player who is arguably not only the best but also someone who is loved everywhere where he goes as one of their own.

We got a chance to witness a player who is a perfect example of leading a complete life when it comes to spending time on his career or with his family.

Above all, we got a chance to witness a pure spectacle and  learnt the biggest lesson that in the end  results doesn't matter, what matters is the love for what you do and the effort that you put in.

And all this we have witnessed from a player who is about to turn 33 in a month. Yes..33! While many people urged him to retire and hang up his racquet long back, he continued on his own journey, carving his own path.

As a Roger Federer fan, I am extremely disappointed that he lost the finals but at the same time, I am inspired by him to see that how day after day, he continues to defy age and do what he loves. (Many congratulations to Novak Djokovic fans too and like Roger said in the end, it was a well-deserved win!)

A lot of people talk about how results are important to define who the greatest player is overall, but come to think of it: do results really matter in the end? After 20 years, most probably people will forget how many titles did he win or lose. Records are made to be broken and who knows till when a record will go on? Did people think that Pete Sampras record will be broken in a short span of 8 years? No, to be very frank for me the records don’t matter because as far as I am concerned, he is the most complete player I have ever seen playing, a player who is not only a genius on court but also is perfect role model for everyone outside the court. Not only that, not once has he been accused of sportsmanship or breaking the rules or for that matter have got involved in controversies outside the court.

For me, yes Roger lost but the pure joy of being able to see him play the way he did was more important at the end. You win some and you lose some, but today Roger Federer won the hearts of everyone present in the center court with his comeback in the fourth set from 2-5 down. After 20 years, will it matter to me if Roger won 17 or 18 GS titles, probably not! What will matter is the fact that how lucky I have been to be able to witness:

~ A player who plays the most effortless tennis that one might have ever seen anyone play.
~A player who plays for the love of the game and enjoys each and every moment of it.
~A player who has defined his own path on his own terms and continues to do so.

Yes Roger Federer didn't win today but with his attitude and passion, inspired many fans in the world showcasing that how important it is to do what you love and give the best effort in whatever you do. Not only that, he showed that critics might say whatever and most probably will continue to say rubbish to you, what matters is what you believe in.

Results might come and go but in the end, what will matter is: did you try your best? Were you able to tell yourself that you tried your best? Were you able to enjoy the moments?

If the answer is yes like Roger Federer, then you will no doubt be able to sleep better in the night.


And if you are his fan, then know that it’s a privilege to be able to see the genius play on the court. Infact, if there are two words I can write for him, it will be Thank You Roger Federer for all the beautiful moments that you have shared with us and will continue to do so in future. You have not only inspired us but also at the same time showed us how doing what you love can give a blissful moment irrespective of the results.

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Thursday, June 26, 2014

If not inspiring, then what?



What a week it has been for sports fans…

First up: Rafael Nadal who progressed to the third round in Wimbledon 2014 defeated Lukas Rosol after being nearly down by two sets and today again he won the match after being first set down!

Second up: The underdogs (Team USA) who no one (except Jurgen Klinsmann and his 23 players probably) gave even the slightest of the chance to win a match, leave apart advanced through the next round in the group of death in World Cup ’2014.

Third Up: – Roger Federer who will be turning 33 next month, played a sublime match to advance to the next round in Wimbledon’2014.

If you are a sports fan like me, you have to be pumped up after seeing what we saw this week in the world of sports.

In all the 3 matches, the one common theme that came out was how every result depended on the willpower and belief of the players.

If you watched the match between Rafael Nadal and Lukas Rosol, you have got to wonder how can a player time again and again, come up from being a set down and still win the match. Nadal was not only a set down, he also faced a set point in the second set. But as it always happens, it is Nadal we are talking about here – the man whose nerves are made of steel. He faced the point, won it and then went on to win the set. Very common, right? But when his opponent faces a set point, he succumbs and loses the match.

What is it about Nadal that makes him so tough to beat? The answer lies in the statement that he made after the match: I was just trying to fight. I was waiting for my moment, trying to find my moment.”

For a moment let’s understand his statement very carefully:

“I was just trying to fight” – To me it shows how Rafael Nadal plays point by point and does not get overwhelmed by the situation. To him, it is very clear, he has to fight every single point that he plays. He doesn’t believe in giving gifts to his opponents by making an unforced error and makes sure that the opponent wins by their own brilliance.

Lesson 1: Fight for every point in life or match. No matter what situation you are, give your best without worrying about the consequences. 

“I was waiting for my moment, trying to find my moment.” -  Lukas Rosol was playing brilliantly until the end of the second set and he would have continued to play like this if Nadal would not have persevered on in the second set in spite of being a break down. Like Nadal said, he was waiting for the moment when he would have an advantage and to me that is a clear sign of a winner. As soon he got his first set point at 7-6 in second set tiebreaker, he pounced upon it and closed the set with the next point itself. We all know this isn’t the first time Nadal has done this, we can all ask Roger Federer about it... 

Lesson 2: There are going to be situations in matches or life when things will not go in your favor, hang on there and wait for your moments.  Believe it or not, after a certain point you will get a small window of opportunity and if you are alert, you will seize it and leave behind the chances of failure comfortably. 

About the USA match, I will just write one small paragraph (if you want to read in detail, you can click on this link : USA advances in the group of death beating all the odds- A very important lesson to be learnt from Jurgen Klinsmann and the US team! http://bit.ly/1m16hss). I am sure pretty much no one even imagined that USA will advance ahead of Portugal and Ghana in this group of death. Jurgen Klinsmann said after the match:

“Nobody gave them a chance but we took the chance”. The critics had completely ruled them out of having any chances at all of advancing and yet they progressed.

Lesson 3: No matter what the people say about your chances of success, they have no clue at all about the reality. The reality is only and only defined by YOU. If you think you can, you will. Shut the critics out from your life and focus on your goals, preparation and how you can move forward. 

As far as Roger Federer is concerned, I will be back in my next article after his third round match on Saturday to express, how as a sports fan, what can we learn from this champion? Remember in spite of his age, he continues to fight on against players younger than him by 5-10 years.

So in the end I will end with this statement:

“It doesn’t matter what others think about your chances of success as long as you believe in yourself. Give your 100 percent in every moment, fight it out and even if the going gets tough, hang in there to wait for your moment. When the moment comes, make sure you are ready to pounce upon it with full force.”
 
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USA advances in the group of death beating all the odds- A very important lesson to be learnt from Jusrgen Klinsmann and the US team!



Inspite of losing the game against the mighty Germans 0-1, USA has advanced to round of  16. There is a saying:
"It is not the mountains created by other that we have to climb, it is ourselves that we have to conquer”.
before explaining the above line, let me ask one simple question before we go ahead. Why do you think people succeed?
If we were to take general opinion, most of the answers will fall in the category of
1)      Genius/Talented
2)      Luck
3)      Destiny
4)      Hard Work
But very few people will say what I believe is the biggest reason for anyone to succeed or for that matter, anyone to be happy in their lives – Will Power to conquer our own mind!
And today USA just proved that in the group of death when out of the blue, they became the second team to qualify for the round of 16 ahead of Ghana and Portugal. Nobody, not even a single person believed them except probably the 23 players and their coach Jurgen Klinsmann.
Who would have thought that USA will proceed ahead but they still did?
That is why I have always said that no matter what everyone thinks about your chances in life, if you believe in yourself, then you are bound to succeed sooner than later.
As per Jurgen Klinsmann – “Everybody said we had no chance but we took that chance”
What an inspiring win by Clint Dempsey, Tim Howard and their team….
If you are a USA fan and even if you are not, think about it what you can learn from this win. Yes you can celebrate but if you want to take it a level ahead: tell yourself today that if you are like USA team in your life, you will turn it around the way USA did in World Cup 2014 in Brazil.

First Costa Rica and now USA, simply inspiring results even for sports fans!
In the end I will again end with this quote:
 “It is not the mountains created by other that we have to climb, it is ourselves that we have to conquer”.

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